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Old July 12th, 2005, 01:26 PM   #16
Robin Frolic
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Join Date: May 2005
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The fact that you were willing to intervene for one person and not the other says something about you.

Security was considering punting one person because she'd had one too many and they were afraid she was going to fall down and hurt herself (and then the club would get in trouble). Security punted the other person because she knowingly did something that's clearly against the rules. It's an easy distinction to make. Ask other people who get booted for doing stuff they're not supposed to do; I don't help them either. I used to try, but then I realized 1) they were in the wrong and 2) often I'd be intervening on behalf of somebody who hadn't told me the whole story, and then I'd seem like an ass for trying to help somebody get back in who didn't actually deserve to get back in. So now my policy is that if somebody hasn't done something *wrong* per se and both they and security are in agreement on that, I'll see what I can do. But if they've broken the rules, or if they and security have different stories, I don't intervene on their behalf.

Anyway, I'm glad you got back in the party and enjoyed yourselves, and I'm especially glad you - as you put it - "definitely learned your lesson". That's what consequences are all about, making sure people learn not to do the same thing next time around.

Hope your Dad had a good time Robin. That's really cool that he was able to come.

I was thrilled to have him there. I knew that he would be able to look at our party and understand what it was all about. He was actually supposed to come on Friday so he could go to the pre-party, but due to a plane ticket mix-up, he ended up having to catch the red-eye on Friday night. I was so relieved when he actually got here (I think a part of me was fatalistically expecting another mix-up that would prevent him from being here).

I asked him the next afternoon if our party reminded him of how the hippie scene used to be. He said it did in a way - "the sense of freedom" was how he put it.

I'd always kind of hoped that he'd happen to have a business conference up here (he has a conference up here at least once a year) at the same time as one of our parties and he'd be able to attend, but that didn't happen, and now it was the last party, so I called him a few weeks beforehand and asked him to do everything in his power to get up here because it was really important to me to have him attend our last party. It just wouldn't have been the same without him there. I know looking over and seeing him standing at the side of the stage with a huge grin on his face will always be one of my favorite moments of the night.
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